whedonesque:

marinashutup:

i love buffy because it’s all like “angel’s soul has been destroyed and there’s nothing in the world that can change that”

EXCEPT THIS FLOPPY DISK

Always back up your data.

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENFJ Success

myersandbriggs:

  1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to involve yourself with others in situations where your input is valued.
  2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power over you.
  3. Express Your Feelings. Understand that your feelings are as important as others are in the overall situation. Without your feelings and needs being valued the best result is not realised, so value and speak to your own feelings as much as you value those of others.
  4. Make Decisions. Don’t be afraid to have an opinion. You need to know show others the qualities and potentials you can see are worthy of action.
  5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see why disagreement and discord indicate the differences between people, and use this as an opportunity to make your value judgements useful for growth, because that’s exactly what they are. Try not to feel responsible for another’s criticism, but try to hear it and understand the feelings and images it engenders within you. Then you may see a path not only to agreement but to a shared and truly valuable end.
  6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see things differently than you see them. Most of your problems with other people are easier to deal with if you try to understand the other person’s perspective.
  7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don’t stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you are an important focus. If you do not fulfil your own needs, how will continue to be effective and how will others know you are true to your beliefs?
  8. Be Gentle in Your Expectations. It is easy for you to see the value in others, but stressing this too much can drive them away. Try to show that you understand their fears and limitations and lead them gently to see how you feel: lead them gently into understanding and love.
  9. Assume the Best. Don’t distress yourself by feeling that your values are lost upon others - they are not. Perhaps it just has to sit with them too. Let the situation resolve itself and never stop believing that love is the true answer.
  10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don’t assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as negative feedback. If you need feedback and don’t have any, ask for it.

Sleeeeeepy

So tired! All the alcohol and partying over the past week has finally caught up with me and functioning is harrrrd today.

dragonheartedrabbit:

Going on right now in Ferguson: Police are raiding a church that has been stocked with medical supplies, food, and tear gas recovery kits for community members engaging in protests. This cannot be allowed to continue.

Stand up, speak out. 

[TW: Ferguson, TW: police, TW: media, TW: child death]

I haven’t posted too much about Ferguson, for personal/trauma-related reasons, but I think it is important to say this:

The POLICE were the initial aggressors here. The POLICE continue to be the aggressors in this. The MEDIA’s faulty reporting CANNOT be trusted as your only source in this or even a reliable one.

It goes against what some of you may learn in school — but the truth here is that to find out what’s really going on, you have to listen to the people who are talking about their experiences firsthand. You cannot rely on media coverage to paint an accurate picture in cases like this. Trust me.

The POLICE shot an unarmed child. The POLICE have instated marshal law on Ferguson, because that makes it seem like they have aggressors to control. They don’t. They have angry people reacting to injustice, not angry people escalating the violence. The escalations are the Police’s doing.

I’m not saying that “The cops started it so go crazy and if they get hurt they have it coming.” I am not saying that and I do not believe that. But what I am saying is that, right now, the police and the media want you to believe that I AM trying to say that.

The police and the media’s coverage of this is designed to make you believe that this is, at worst, a poorly managed but fair fight between an angry, violent public and poor, overworked, unprepared law enforcement professionals. They want you to believe that the law enforcement professionals’ behavior is forgivable, because they just dON’t kNoW hoW TO deaL WITH All THis ViOLenCE ANd ATtacks. Don’t believe this. This is bullshit.

Don’t forget the truth. Don’t forget that the police shot an unarmed child. Don’t forget that the police are armed and the vast majority of the public is not. Don’t forget that the police are not targeting armed individuals or aggressors.

Don’t forget that this is not a fair fight, or even a fair war. In a war, both sides know why the fight is happening. And the soldiers on both sides know that they are soldiers. This is not what is happening in Ferguson.

In Ferguson, the police are targeting civilians. The police are interpreting defense and recovery items as weapons. They are operating under the assumption that skin color is analogous to their opponents’ uniforms. And whether or not this is how the media is framing the story, that is what is happening.

Don’t allow the media coverage or the police’s escalation of violence and terror to trick you into believing that this is a justified, if overboard, response to an opponent’s attack in a fight. The police are escalating in the HOPES that the public will match their violence and escalation so that they can claim they were justified in all their actions. But that’s not what is going to happen… because the other side isn’t fighting. They didn’t sign up to be soldiers for this war. Nothing the police are doing is justified. Period.

I’m gonna blacklist Ferguson, tw: police, and tw: media for amorphous, trigger-related reasons. But please don’t interpret my inability to deal with the barrage of personal triggers related to what is happening in Ferguson as a sign that I don’t care. I care very very deeply. If you are also triggered by what is happening there or if you are from there and feel traumatized by what is happening: MY INBOX IS OPEN. If you need someone to talk to, I am here to listen. I will keep all conversations about this private unless you tell me that I do not have to/you don’t want me to.

(via heroes-get-made)

humansofnewyork:

"It’s very difficult to get a job on the basis of your education. All the people who have jobs to give, give it to their family. Not only does it benefit their family members, but it benefits them as well, because now they have less dependents."
(Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of Congo)

humansofnewyork:

"It’s very difficult to get a job on the basis of your education. All the people who have jobs to give, give it to their family. Not only does it benefit their family members, but it benefits them as well, because now they have less dependents."

(Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of Congo)

Oberyn Martell meme: (2/4) four relationships → Oberyn & Doran
“I am not blind, nor deaf. I know that you all believe me weak, frightened, feeble. Your father knew me better. Oberyn was ever the viper. Deadly, dangerous, unpredictable. No man dared tread on him. I was the grass. Pleasant, complaisant, sweet-smelling, swaying with every breeze. Who fears to walk upon the grass? But it is the grass that hides the viper from his enemies and shelters him until he strikes.”

(via gameofgifs)